Understanding the True Source of Suffering

 

In life, we often find ourselves grappling with various struggles—whether it's related to money, relationships, food, or societal roles. These external factors are frequently blamed for our discomfort and unhappiness. However, what if I told you that nothing in the external world is inherently the problem? The real issue lies within our perception and attachments. Let’s explore this idea further.

The Myth of External Problems

It’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that external factors are the cause of our suffering. We often think that money, sex, food, marriage, relationships, children, and even our interactions with parents or siblings are the sources of our pain. But this perspective overlooks a critical point: these things, in themselves, are not inherently problematic. They are simply a part of life’s vast tapestry.

Money is not the problem; it is merely a form of energy moving in the world. It becomes a source of suffering only when it is mistaken for our identity or self-worth. Similarly, sex, love, and relationships are not bondage, but rather expressions of connection and shared experience. They become problematic when we cling to them for validation or fulfillment, turning them into a need rather than a mutual exchange.

The Real Problem: Unconsciousness and Attachment

So, if external things aren’t the true problem, what is? Unconsciousness—or what can also be referred to as separation consciousness—is the root cause. This is the state where we are disconnected from the deeper truth of who we are. We live our lives unaware of our true nature, clinging to illusions that reinforce our sense of separation and limitation.

At the core of this issue is attachment—attachment to identities, roles, beliefs, and even experiences. When we attach ourselves to the external world, we begin to mistake it for our source of fulfillment. This is where we start to suffer. We don't suffer because we have things or experiences, but because we cling to them, believing they define us.

For example, food is not the problem either; it is Brahman, a manifestation of the divine. The issue arises when food is used unconsciously—to fill emptiness or escape from discomfort. Similarly, money or sex can become chains when they are linked to our self-worth or identity. The external world itself is not impure; it is our perception and attachment to it that clouds our understanding.

The Illusion of Separation

The most fundamental misconception is that we view ourselves as separate from the world around us. This illusion is what causes much of our suffering. We think we are separate from life, from others, and from the universe itself. But in truth, we are the space in which all things appear—like the screen on which a movie is projected.

The movie screen is never affected by the events in the film. It doesn't burn from the fire, drown in the flood, or get stained by the blood. Similarly, you, as awareness, are never truly touched by the events that unfold in your life. The body, mind, and personality all have their own stories, but you are the space in which these stories arise and dissolve.

Liberation: Seeing Clearly, Not Renouncing Life

For most of us, life has been conditioned by societal norms and expectations. We have been taught to see life through a lens of guilt, judgment, and punishment. This keeps the ego alive, always striving to be better, purer, or worthier. But the truth is simpler—and far more radical.

Nothing has ever stained you. Nothing has ever improved you. And more importantly, nothing has ever been wrong with you. The key to freedom is not in renouncing life, but in seeing it clearly. Life is not something to be escaped or avoided—it is something to be experienced without clinging to it.

Freedom Is Not About Ownership

A truly free person is not defined by what they own or what they experience. Freedom comes from not being owned by anything—whether it’s money, relationships, or experiences. The free person can have money or not have it, love or be alone, enjoy or abstain—all the while maintaining the same inner peace and clarity. This is because their home is not in experiences, but in Being.

Conclusion: The World Is Not the Problem

The real issue lies not in the world itself but in our misunderstanding of it. The moment we begin to see clearly, life doesn’t necessarily need to change. The external world may remain the same, but our experience of it transforms completely. We no longer mistake the world for our source, nor do we seek ourselves in the fleeting pleasures of life.

In the end, life is to be enjoyed, not clung to. Participate fully, love deeply, but don’t lose yourself in the roles or experiences. The more clearly we see, the more freedom we have—freedom from suffering, freedom from attachment, and ultimately, freedom to simply be.

C. P. Kumar
Energy Healer & Blogger

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